Every lover loves first of all an absent.
The absence precedes the presence.
The presence is just a case of the absence.
Presence is a hallucination of some durability.
But this does not barely diminish the pain.
The pain remains the same.
So what is the difference?
If in the one who’s suffering there is
or there is not
the one who looks after the one who suffers.
(excerpt freely taken from Ka by Roberto Calasso)